In conjunction with the Counselling & Wellness Week
2022, UTAR Sungai Long Campus Counselling & Guidance Unit (CGU) organised a
series of webinars.
With the aim to create awareness among UTAR students
and staff on the importance of psychological well-being and physical
healthiness, one of the webinars titled “How to Cope with Emotional
Blackmail
如何觉察及处理关系中的情绪勒索陷阱” was held on 10 June 2022 via Microsoft Teams.
Invited to conduct the talk was Counselling & Guidance Unit Counsellor Ng
Wan Fern.
The webinar saw Ng explaining the definition of
emotional blackmail; examples of emotional blackmail; the signs of emotional
blackmail; the impacts of emotional blackmail; the types of emotional
blackmail; the ways to cope with emotional blackmail and others.
Ng during the webinar
Ng kick-started the webinar by explaining the
definition of emotional blackmail, provided by Susan Forward, who is a
psychotherapist and a bestselling author. According to Susan Forward,
emotional blackmail typically involves two people who have established
personal or intimate relationships such as parent and child, spouses,
siblings, or two close friends.
Ng said, “Emotional blackmail takes place when the
people in your life use fear, obligation and guilt in the relationships to
control, manipulate and threaten you to earn your agreement. It is a
powerful form of manipulation. It often takes place when people close to us
threaten to punish us for not doing what they want.”
“Emotional blackmailers know how much we value our
relationship with them,” she added. Ng also emphasised, “The person who is
acting in a controlling way often wants something from the other person, for
example, they want to feel loved, valuable, appreciated, needed, etc.”
Ng concluded her webinar by advising the
participants, “If you're dealing with emotional blackmail, it is likely that
you are feeling frustrated and trapped, but things can get better! Once you
recognise the signs of emotional blackmail, you can set boundaries and
confront the person. If the person is a loving one, you can learn to stop
their pattern of manipulation.”
The webinar came to an end with a Q&A session and a
group photography session.
Third row, second from right: Ng with
participants
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